What will people say?

"Hva vil folk si?" is a Norwegian movie about Nisha, released in 2017. As I was watching this movie yesterday, hundreds and thousands of questions about "what will people say" was going on in my mind simultaneously.

The protagonist of the story, Nisha, is brought up in Norway with her Pakistani roots. Her father once says in the movie that he migrated to Norway via Germany (where he was also jailed for sometime) from Pakistan, so that Nisha and her siblings would get better education and life in Norway.

Though they came to Norway, Nisha's parents always wanted her to have the Pakistani morals and value. Nisha, a normal teenager was forced to have two lives; one as an obedient daughter and the other one who would sneak out from window at night and liked to party. Things get worse, when her father catches her with a boy in her bed. Though she hadn't committed any crime, she is sent off to Pakistan as a punishment, without her conscience, to stay with her aunt in a very orthodox environment. She experiences a culture shock with no access to internet and phone and had to sleep in mattress laid in floor with all the females of the house together. She even tries to flee away, but to her dismay, her brutal uncle impels her to burn her passport. 

In one instance, Nisha is shown to fly kite but the kite doesn't take off which metaphorically implies her condition where she wants to escape and fly but has no place to go to as she is already abandoned by her parents.

In the second plot, she's caught off kissing her cousin which makes her aunt furious and she is deserted in her aunt's place as well. I really felt bad when her father spits on her for being a disgrace to her family's name. In both the instance, Nisha suffers from "what will people say?" syndrome, despite being impeccant in both the situations. 

Talking about thousands of questions popping out on my mind while watching the movie was that we're so conscious of what people would say in every situation. What will people say - if I wore that dress, if I came home late, if I spoke my mind, if I hung out will guys, if I still ain't married at 29, if I loved someone who is not my kind, if I was drunk and came home late, if I danced till my feet hurt, if I dated someone, if I bla bla bla bla and that goes on.

I sometimes feel like we're always restricted to do certain things in a certain way just to be righteous to other people. This is like, I'm just a puppet handled by the society and should always worry about what people would say!! It feels bad, so bad sometimes, when you're constantly scrutinized and weighed upon a scale of guilt and innocence, just on moral grounds. Be good in the eyes of other people ; doesn't matter if you hurt yourself or others; you just need to be impeccably virtuous so that the society can designate you as a dutiful son/daughter or person. Just for the sake of "what will people say", I think most of us give away our happiness but our happiness doesn't matter because we are always so worried about what people would say!! 

Can't we just rule out the opinion of others' and live the life the way we want it to be? Can't we just say it loud to our friends, "Yes, you've hurt me" and not care about if he/she would get hurt for hurting us?
Why is it our human nature to stare out people when we see something new and unusual happening. It's sick to live in a society and constantly be reminded of "WHAT WILL PEOPLE SAY?" rather than hearing out loud "DO  AS YOUR HEART SAYS"!!!

I envy people who are care-free and who just flow with their life. It's like, they've no restrictions and they are who they exactly want to be.